“The relational answer to the question:
‘Who’s right and who’s wrong?’ is:
‘Who cares?’
It’s about how you’re going to make things work as a team”
— Terrence Real, Relational Life Institute Founder
Wiederkehrende Konflikte, emotionaler Rückzug, das Gefühl allein zu sein — obwohl ihr zusammen seid. Ich begleite Paare online dabei, aus diesen Mustern herauszukommen. Klar, direkt und ohne falsche Harmonie.
DO YOU KNOW THIS?
This is not a sign that you have failed. It is a sign that you have reached the limits of your old strategies.
The " endless dance ": You keep going around in the same circles. You talk a lot, but in the end you're just exhausted and even further apart.
Love without intimacy: The connection is there, but you're getting in your own way. Something is blocking the channel, and you don't know how to remove the barriers.
One withdraws
Distance, coldness, the feeling of being alone – even though you live under the same roof.
Loneliness for two : One escapes into silence, the other into blame. You live under one roof, but your hearts live in different postal codes.
Here's the truth: You don't need traditional consulting that only scratches the surface. You need a space that fits into your everyday life – online, direct, and without detours.
Love isn't a feeling that simply happens to us. It's a practice. A daily decision for courage and against pride.
The method: Couples counseling that speaks plainly
Why Relational Life Therapy (RLT) according to Terry Real?
Most couples counseling fails because of excessive politeness. My work is based on Terry Real's RLT approach. We don't spend weeks circling around vague feelings. We precisely identify what's going wrong – and how you can get out of it.
I confront you lovingly because politeness won't save your relationship. The truth, however, will. It's about genuine love: having the courage to call things by their name because your relationship is too precious for lazy compromises.
What we do specifically (Your journey to "We")
Radical personal responsibility instead of assigning blame
In couples counseling, we don't focus on who is "at fault." Each of you learns to recognize your own role in the dynamic. We stop asking, "What is my partner doing wrong?" and start asking, "What is my contribution to our happiness?"
From "Adaptive Child" to "Functional Adult"
We identify your old survival strategies – the behaviors that once protected you but now hold you back. We replace these defense mechanisms with genuine relationship skills. You learn to act from your adult self, instead of from your wounded child self.
Results for everyday life, not just insights
Insight is only the first step. Real change happens between sessions. You'll receive concrete tools and exercises for your relationship at home, so that insight becomes real practice.
ONLINE COUPLES COUNSELING — LOCATION-INDEPENDENT
WHY ONLINE – AND WHY THAT'S AN ADVANTAGE
Discreet relationship counseling via video — no waiting room, no travel. Couples coaching worldwide, exactly where you feel safe.
Flexible & suitable for everyday use
No travel time, no free hour in the middle of the workday. You only need 60-90 minutes and a quiet room. Evening and weekend appointments are of course available.
Discretion & Security
No waiting room, no risk of meeting anyone. The session takes place via an encrypted video connection. This is a real advantage, especially when dealing with sensitive topics.
DACH region & worldwide
Germany, Austria, Switzerland — or wherever you are. Sessions in German and English, for couples who live or work internationally.
Clear framework, less escalation
The screen creates a natural structure. Conversations remain more focused – even when they become emotional.
"Most couples don't come because they don't love each other enough — but because they've forgotten how to show their love."
Oliver Fialova
INVESTMENT IN YOUR FUTURE
Four paths to change
Every relationship needs its own framework. What all approaches have in common is that you don't just get conversations, but a system that permanently changes your relationship. No ongoing costs, no endless process.
01
THE COMMON IMPULSE
1 SESSION 60-90 min
€175 online
The first step out of the impasse — seeing new paths together
Sometimes all it takes is a neutral space and a clear, external perspective to understand why you're going in circles. In this individual session, we'll focus on your dynamics and lay the foundation for real change—whether as a test for the collaborative process or as immediate support.
Understanding your dynamics: Breaking the cycle of action and reaction
Identifying common triggers: Understanding what truly hurts the other person.
Instant impulses: Tools for everyday life to stop escalations immediately.
02
Clarity & Focus
6 sessions of 60-90 minutes + 1 bonus session
900 €
PACKAGE · online
The assessment that puts an end to your conflicts
The introduction to RLT-based counseling. In 6 structured sessions, you will gain the fundamentals that most couples don't achieve in years of traditional counseling: clarity about what really isn't working — and how to change it.
RLT basics & honest inventory
First aid for recurring conflicts
Communication tools that work in everyday life
Specific exercises between sessions
BONUS: Includes 1 integration call (30–60 min.) within 6 months of completion – your safety net for everyday life.
03
Depth & Intimacy
9 sessions 60-90 min + 2 bonus sessions €1,260
·PACKAGE · online
Go where it really matters — emotional and physical closeness
Building on the basics: Here we work on what most couples don't talk about. Three specific sessions are dedicated to sexuality, vulnerability, and rediscovering true intimacy.
Everything is based on "clarity & focus".
3 targeted sessions on sexuality & emotional intimacy
Use vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness.
Rediscovering the closeness that lies buried beneath everyday life
BONUS: Includes 2 integration calls (30-60 min each) within 6 months of completion to reinforce your achievements.
04
Holistic Transformation
12 sessions (60-90 min) + 3 bonus sessions · €1,560 package · online
The complete process — breaking old patterns, forging new paths
The Deep Dive. We work on the deep-seated patterns from your family of origin—the Adaptive Child that sabotages your relationship—and together we build the Functional Adult. This isn't a quick fix. This is sustainable change.
Everything from "Depth & Intimacy" as a basis
Deep Dive: Adaptive Child vs. Functional Adult
Recognize and break generational patterns
Integration into everyday life for sustainable change
Final meeting with future plan
BONUS: Includes 3 integration calls (30-60 min each) within 12 months of completion to reinforce your achievements.
"A matter close to my heart: Social remuneration"
It's important to me that valuable relationship work doesn't fail because of money. If you're in a difficult financial situation and can't currently afford my packages, please talk to me openly. Together we'll find a solution or a reduced price that fits your circumstances.
INSIGHTS INTO THE PROCESS
THIS IS HOW COLLABORATION WORKS
Step 1
Free initial consultation
15–20 minutes online. No pressure – we'll see together if it's a good fit.
Step 2
Understanding patterns
In the first sessions, we work out what keeps leading you into the same trap.
Step 3
Practicing new skills
Concrete relationship skills that you can immediately apply in everyday life – not just theory.
WHAT CLIENTS SAY
"The sessions with Oliver were surprisingly relaxed and welcoming. I usually find it difficult to talk about feelings — but here it was easy. It was worthwhile: for me personally, for my partner and for our relationship."
"The insights and exercises that Oliver gave us have not only improved our relationship — but also the way I interact with other people. I hadn't expected that."
"When we started the counseling, we were on the verge of splitting up. After four sessions, we felt we understood each other again — mainly because we learned to talk to each other differently."
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Does couples counseling really work online?
Yes – and for many couples, it's even better than being there in person. The clear structure of a video call reduces potential conflicts, and the familiar home environment helps couples open up.
What technical requirements do we have?
A laptop, tablet, or smartphone with a camera. That's all. I use Google Meet or a similar tool – and I'll help you set it up if needed.
Can we book from abroad?
Yes. I work with couples from Germany, Austria, Switzerland, and other German- and English-speaking countries. Online means: no geographical boundaries.
What distinguishes RLT-based counseling from traditional couples counseling?
In traditional couples counseling, the process is often mediated between both partners—neutrally, cautiously, sometimes endlessly. My RLT-based counseling works differently: I clearly name what I see. If one of you is hurting the other, I say so—respectfully, but clearly. At the same time, we work on the underlying patterns. It's a structured process with concrete tools and measurable results.
Why is a package of 6, 9 or 12 sessions more sustainable than individual appointments?
A single session can provide relief—but rarely brings about real change. Relationship patterns that have solidified over years require a structured process. In our packages, each session builds upon the previous one: laying the foundation, delving deeper, and anchoring change in everyday life. The difference between "we had a good conversation" and "our relationship has changed" lies precisely in this structure.
ABOUT ME
Oliver Fialova
I am a couples counselor and systemic coach. I work exclusively online – consciously and out of conviction. The online setting is not a compromise, but a clearly structured framework that enables real change.
My work is based on Relational Life Therapy (RLT) according to Terry Real: clear, direct, relationship-oriented. Instead of assigning blame, we work on taking responsibility for one's own patterns.
My work is consulting and coaching – not psychotherapy and not a substitute for medical treatment.